How do I know if joining a Dinner Party table is right for me?

  • You've experienced significant death loss, whether a parent, sibling, partner, child, or close friend and were among the first in your peer community to experience that kind of loss (**while we understand that loss takes many forms (i.e. break ups, divorce) we do not currently have the capacity to meet needs outside of death or physical loss**)

  • You understand that you're joining a community of mostly 20- and 30-somethings because this is an age group that is typically underserved by the traditional grief community -- too old for youth grief support and too young for traditional grief support groups where attendees are often older.

  • You have support beyond the Dinner Party and are not relying on TDP as a replacement for therapy

  • You're looking to build community with others who have experienced significant loss, including a commitment to meet at least quarterly (4x) in the next year

  • Although grief is an impossible-to-predict rollercoaster and ghosting is very much a part of our current culture, you understand that part of your commitment in joining a TDP table is to be responsive to your volunteer host, who has also experienced significant loss themselves. If you're no longer interested in being part of your table, you understand that it is your responsibility to communicate that openly and transparently with your host and that you will be met with the utmost empathy and understanding in return.

  • You understand that the Dinner Party will not tolerate racism, sexism, homophobia, transphobia, classism, ableism, antisemitism, Islamophobia or any other form of discrimination at the table. In joining a table, you are also committing to contributing to an environment that is inclusive for all.

  • You agree.



Thank you so much for applying to join The Dinner Party! Please know that our staff (all of whom have experienced significant loss themselves) read every single application, and appreciate and honor the vulnerability that it takes to fill out a form.

Because we curate each table in our 100+ locations worldwide by hand and want to conduct this process with care, please note that you may not hear from our staff about a "table placement" for anywhere between 1 to 6 weeks as we find a table that's a good fit for you.

We currently take into consideration factors like:

  • Geography (where do you live and where are you willing to travel?)

  • Who/what/when of your loss

  • If there are enough people who have applied to host a table in your city that we have a place to connect you or if we need to recruit more hosts to meet the need

  • Passions and interests outside the table

Why do we take these things into consideration? Because our goal is not just to send you to a one-time event, but to help you find "your" people. People you can build community with over time. People who can be your "loss anchors" when no one else seems to understand. We know this takes more time and goes against our one-click culture, but in the current age of loneliness and isolation, we know that it's worth it.

Also note that depending on your location, we may not be able to offer you a Dinner Party table at this time. Everything we do is in response to demand and over the last few years, we've learned that trying to make a table work when there aren’t enough people invested in a location can leave people feeling more isolated after loss rather than less (which kinda defeats the purpose of Dinner Party-ing, no?).

If we can't match you a table, you will still receive a personalized email from us within the time period above with resources and other ways to be involved!

Thank you again for your interest in The Dinner Party!

Name *
I give permission for The Dinner Party to email me. *
Date of Birth *
Date of Birth
Gender [can check multiple] *
Sexual Orientation [can check multiple] *
Race and/or Ethnicity [can check multiple] *
Religious/Spiritual Identification [can check multiple] *
If inside the US, leave blank
Do you have a car or access to a car?
What's your primary experience with loss?
What’s been most helpful to you in working through your loss (i.e. therapy, grief groups, yoga, writing, friends)? Have you talked with friends or family about your loss? Do you feel comfortable talking openly about loss with others?
What are you passionate about? How do you choose to spend your weekends? Is there a particular community with whom you self-identify, and would like to connect with? Please let us know if you have any access needs that The Dinner Party staff or Hosts should know about.
We ask that you only sign up to Join a Table if you think you’d like to attend a dinner party at least quarterly (4x a year) moving forward. Consistency is key, friends! So, ideally, how frequently would you want to get together? *
If there are no tables available in your area, would you be interested in serving as a volunteer host? This commitment involves planning/organizing dinners every 1-2 months, providing private space (i.e. an apartment or home, no matter how small!) for dinners, and lightly facilitating conversations based on training and recommendations from the TDP HQ staff.
How did you hear about the Dinner Party? *
While we can't commit to making these offerings available across the wider TDP world, if available in your city or region, would you be interested in joining...